I’m a spur of the moment kind of gal. I don’t plan ahead, it doesn’t occur to me. This isn’t the best strategy for quite of a lot of life and even more so now that I’ve got a child. Back to school is happening as we speak. Though we are years from this I realize what it really means is being organized.
I’m the poster child for disorganization. My ADHD clearly is responsible and though I manage it fairly well I’m realizing I need more help these days. The amount of times I’ve made coffee and forgotten I did? Embarrassingly frequent. Thank goodness it is fragrant. Oh? Did I have something in the oven? Thank goodness for beepers. Le sigh.
What have I learnt to help feel like my head is above water?
Making waffles? Double the batch and freeze the extra. No need for store bought frozen waffles, you can grab these when needed. It has reduced our breakfast routine time substantially.
Doubling batches of food and freezing it also helps on those nights when you don’t even know when you would have had time to make dinner. I often do this when Zach FaceTimes with his parents. The real problem I have been faced with is the planning ahead nonsense. I need to make sure I know what I’m cooking ahead of time.
Use it! Find a few recipes and rotate through them. I know I know, I never used my crock pot to the extent that I currently do.
Cooking in Stages
This one is a little weird to get used to but I’ve found it cuts down on frustration for me. When I have a moment I’m not needed as a jungle-gym I set out the ingredients I need for what I’m cooking. Back to mom status until I have a moment to get to the next step. It might take me all day to cook one thing but I’ve accomplished it and been able to be Mom. I’ve found accomplishing something affects my mood 100%. If I feel like I’ve started 10 tasks during the day and completed none of them I feel like shit. Measuring expectations is HARD.
Ask for Help
Neither one of us is good at this one. I think we’re too blockheaded but I have started to say “I need help, it doesn’t have to come from you, but I need help”. This all came to a head this past week when sciatica took the reins of our lives. I crawled to the doctor, vomited due to the pain, and got a few things knocked off my to-do list that I wasn’t planning on.
I also hired a handyman to come and get some shit done around here that I knew we’d never get to. I need to call him back, things are piling up. But the point is, we don’t have time for these things right now.
Consider a Food Subscription
Again, we’re pretty DIY around here but after this sciatica nonsense, I was not able to cook since I was not able to walk. I didn’t have a food subscription set up but I might just treat myself to a Hungry Root box next week. I’m beat!
I learned this one by accident but it makes complete sense. My students had canceled last minute and I didn’t want to cancel the babysitter last minute, that seemed silly. Y’all! I had lunch! I baked bread! I drank my coffee without forgetting I had made it. So we’re making that a weekly thing. Once a week for an hour the babysitter will come and I’ll do: something. We tried it this week and it was an epic failure. But the probability of Baby G getting 5 teeth every week she comes seems rather low.
I can’t tell you how much time I used to take choosing out the perfect outfit. When I came home from the hospital with a baby I quickly realized I needed nursing tanks. My mom graciously went out and picked up 6 nursing tanks in neutral colors. At first, I hated how boring my wardrobe felt, so drab. Eventually, I really came to love it! Not the same color scheme so much as not having to hem and haw over an outfit. This isn’t to say I haven’t embraced color again, I have, but differently and more in an accessory sort of way. I don’t feel the need to have a huge wardrobe at the moment and this has certainly made my life easier.
Noticing a trend here? I’m trying to get better at delegating tasks. Parents, babysitters, handymen, they are all super helpful. They aren’t all free and I know cutting down on work due to childcare being expensive has changed things for us. But self-care is going to help us both be much better parents.
Do you struggle with ADHD? How have you managed once things got to be quite a lot?